5 Practices for Finding Stillness
The wounds left behind when we’ve experienced trauma, grief, or emotional pain can be deep and long-lasting. They affect not just our mental and emotional health but also our physical well-being. For many women, the journey to healing can feel overwhelming, as though the pain is too great to overcome.
Today, we will explore a quiet, powerful path to repair and renewal—one that doesn’t require us to run or fight but instead invites us to be still.
Stillness may seem like a simple concept, but it holds profound healing power. In a world where we are often told to push through pain or stay busy to distract ourselves, learning to sit in stillness offers us a path to genuine inner peace. When we slow down and tune into our inner world, we create space for the body, mind, and spirit to begin the process of repair.
Understanding the Power of Stillness
For many, trauma and emotional pain leave us feeling disconnected from ourselves. The noise of the outside world, combined with the internal chatter of unresolved emotions, can create a sense of overwhelm. Stillness provides a way to press pause, allowing us to step out of survival mode and into a place of quiet awareness.
In stillness, we give ourselves permission to stop running from the pain and begin facing it gently. This practice is not about forcing yourself to feel or confront traumatic memories, but about creating a compassionate space where healing can happen naturally.
How Stillness Repairs Emotional Wounds
- Allowing the Nervous System to Reset
Trauma often causes our nervous system to remain in a heightened state of alertness, known as the fight-or-flight response. This constant state of tension can leave us feeling anxious, drained, and unable to relax. When we engage in stillness—through practices like meditation, breathwork, or simply sitting in quiet reflection—we send a message to our nervous system that it’s safe to rest. This activates the body’s natural relaxation response, allowing it to begin repairing the damage caused by prolonged stress and trauma.
- Releasing Suppressed Emotions
Emotional pain, especially when related to trauma, often gets suppressed because it feels too difficult to process. Over time, these unprocessed emotions can become stuck in the body, manifesting as physical tension, anxiety, or even illness. Stillness provides a gentle and non-invasive way to begin releasing these stored emotions. As we sit quietly, we may notice feelings that rise to the surface—whether it’s grief, anger, or sadness. By allowing these emotions to come up in a space of non-judgment, we begin the process of emotional release and repair.
- Reconnecting with Your Inner Self
One of the most painful aspects of trauma is the sense of disconnection it creates—from others, from the world, and from ourselves. In the wake of trauma, many people lose touch with who they are at their core, feeling defined by their pain or experiences. Stillness offers a way to reconnect with your true self, beyond the trauma. As you sit quietly, you can begin to tune into your inner wisdom, rediscovering the parts of you that are whole, resilient, and unbroken. This reconnection is a key part of the healing process, allowing you to reclaim your identity beyond the pain.
- Finding Clarity and Perspective
When we are constantly moving, both physically and mentally, it’s hard to gain perspective on our experiences. Stillness creates the mental and emotional space needed for clarity. In moments of quiet reflection, we can begin to see our pain in a new light, perhaps recognizing patterns, uncovering hidden truths, or gaining insight into how to move forward. This clarity can be empowering, offering a sense of direction and purpose on the healing journey.
- Cultivating Self-Compassion
The journey to repair emotional wounds requires deep self-compassion. Trauma and emotional pain can often leave us with feelings of shame, guilt, or self-blame. In stillness, we learn to treat ourselves with kindness and patience, rather than criticism. As we sit quietly with ourselves, we practice being present with whatever emotions arise, without trying to push them away or judge them. This gentle acceptance is a form of self-compassion that paves the way for true healing.
Practices for Finding Stillness
If you’re new to the concept of stillness or find it challenging to slow down, here are a few ways to begin incorporating it into your healing journey:
- Breath Awareness Meditation
One of the easiest ways to find stillness is through breath awareness. Start by sitting in a comfortable position and simply noticing your breath as it moves in and out. You don’t need to change anything—just observe. When your mind starts to wander, gently bring your attention back to your breath. This practice helps calm the nervous system and bring you into the present moment.
- Mindful Walking
For those who find sitting still difficult, mindful walking can be a wonderful alternative. As you walk, focus on the sensation of your feet touching the ground, the movement of your body, and the sounds around you. This can help quiet the mind and create a sense of calm.
- Body Scan Meditation
A body scan is a powerful way to reconnect with your body and release tension held from trauma. Starting at your toes, slowly bring your attention to each part of your body, noticing any sensations, tightness, or discomfort. As you move through each area, breathe into it, and allow it to relax. This practice helps release physical tension and bring awareness to emotions stored in the body.
- Quiet Reflection and Prayer to God
Spending time in quiet reflection or prayer can be a deeply healing practice, especially when you turn your heart toward God, the ultimate source of all healing. Find a peaceful place where you can sit quietly, close your eyes, and open your heart to God’s presence. Whether you speak to Him openly about your pain or sit in silent prayer, inviting God into your healing journey allows His peace, love, and comfort to wash over you. In these moments of stillness, you can surrender your burdens to Him, trusting that He is working within you to repair your wounds and bring you wholeness.
- Journaling in Stillness
Journaling can be a form of stillness that allows you to process emotions through writing. In a quiet space, set aside time to write freely, without judgment. Let whatever thoughts and feelings come to the surface and flow onto the page. This practice can help you gain clarity and release pent-up emotions.
Finding Peace in the Stillness
The process of repairing the wounds of trauma and emotional pain takes time, patience, and a willingness to be with yourself in stillness. Healing doesn’t come from forcing yourself to “move on” or “get over it.” It comes from creating space for your body, mind, and spirit to do the deep work of restoration.
In moments of stillness, you invite peace into your life. You give yourself the chance to breathe, to rest, and to be. This stillness is where healing begins. It’s where the broken pieces of yourself can come back together, not through force, but through the gentle power of presence.
An Invitation to Begin Your Journey of Healing
If you are struggling to find peace or feel overwhelmed by the wounds of trauma and emotional pain, I want you to know that you are not alone. Stillness can be the key to unlocking your inner strength and healing, and I’m here to support you on that journey. Please feel free to reach out if you’re ready to take the next step toward repairing those wounds and finding peace within.
Be Blessed! Be Free!
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